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If you are dating an attractive, extroverted man or women you may be in for heartbreak. Researchers have found that the more good-looking and the more outgoing someone is, the more likely they are to cheat in a relationship. One study found that women who have high levels of oestrogen not only look and feel beautiful, but are also more likely to be unfaithful to their partners. In addition, physically attractive women who receive more male attention while in relationships are more likely to be the targets of mate poaching. Evidence varies, however, on whether it is me, or women, who cheat more. A study carried out at Oregon, Rutgers and Villanova universities, reported in the journal, Sex Roles, found half of women are unfaithful, and that they are more likely to begin new relationships after cheating. Researchers think women cheat to test potential long-term partners, while men are more likely to be opportunistic. That opportunism appears to be widespread, however. In one survey of over 133,000 women, 56 per cent had caught their man cheating red handed and another 36 per cent suspected their men of being unfaithful. Another study of 70 partners found a clear-cut correlation between infidelity and risk-taking personality types, especially when combined with an extrovert tendency. Research psychologists Marianne Quick of Sheffield Hallam University and John Maltby of Leicester University who did the study, have been conducting work which they hope will help people control infidelity in relationships, and enable them to predict whether or not their partner is likely to cheat on them. Indeed, considering the misery infidelity can bring, we wish them the best. |
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We’ve this month brought you facts, figures and claims about love, loving and relationships. But how do you personally figure as a lover? We’ve today brought together some of the funniest, sharpest, or most insightful quizzes on the net to give you a handle on where you are in the whole season of love. Many couples tend to be concerned about what their partners feel about them, while singles are curious to know if their future partners are worth pursuing or “their type”. Apart from that, as divorce rates rise due to infidelity, incompatibility and lack of intimacy, many researchers have come up with quizzes, as they have been found to be eyeopeners in relationship problems. Now, take your time doing a few quizzes and in a click of a second, you’ll see how well your relationship is fairing. Also, if you are single you could tell what sort of partner you are likely to have.
- Does she love you and do you love her? Find out if the relationship is worth pursuing.
- Do you love him? Find out if he is worth your time.
- What kind of guys do you attract?
- What kind of girl is likely to fall for you?
- Do you really like sex?
- Is your lover cheating on you?
- Do you know if and how you can keep your partner?
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How did you meet your partner? Traditionally, most married couples met through friends and family, typically at parties or at home. In recent decades, the next most common way of meeting partners has been at work or at school. But in the 21st Century, the Internet has galloped forwards to become one of the top three ways of meeting your future spouse. A Harris poll of 10,000 American couples who married in 2006 and 2007 found that 19 per cent of them had first met on the Internet, compared with 14 per cent in a similar poll two years earlier. So howabout Kenya? Please write in and tell us how you met. Did he first walk across your screen on FaceBook, or was this a tale of holiday romance, love across the supermarket aisles, or a Matatu ride you will never forget? Please send your stories to us at
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Scientists say we each spend an average of 20,160 minutes kissing, across a lifetime, in a custom that has spread across cultures and even species – the tree-hanging orangatuns of Borneo now kiss having learnt the art from watching humans. But it turns out to be quite a good habit to catch. Neuroscientists say the stimulation to lips and tongue, both highly sensitive areas, sends signals to the brain to release the endorphins that give us a high. Kissing also helps prevent hormone-glucocorticoids forming that can lead to stress and high cholesterol, and creates an adrenaline rush that combats hydrocortisone, a stress hormone. Kissing also sets off a chemical mechanism that helps smooth out wrinkles. The down side is that bacteria can be spread through a kiss. But, say scientists, 80% of the bacteria passed in a kiss is common to most people, and the 20% that is unique to one person is usually beneficial to the other because it helps their immune system create antibodies. So enjoy your 20,160 minutes. Overall, it’s pretty good for you. |
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Humans are not monogamous mammals, scientists say. Only about three per cent of mammals are monogamous, mating and bonding with one partner for life. But a few drops of vasopressin could help us in this era of infidelity and high divorce rates. Vasopressin has been called the monogamy chemical. By isolating male voles before and after mating, scientists found that lifelong mating could be linked to the action of vasopressin. Before mating, the male vole is friendly to male and female voles alike. But within 24 hours of mating, the male vole is hooked to his female partner for life. When the chemical vasopressin kicks in, the male vole is indifferent to all females except one. With a classic exhibition of the “jealous husband syndrome” he becomes totally aggressive to other males. On this basis, scientists have managed genetically to engineer a mouse that stays faithful to one mate. Dr. Thomas Insel, who led the research team at Emory University in Atlanta, said: "The results so far suggest love is simply a form of addiction that makes some animals form these lifelong pair bonds." He discovered that two hormones - oxytocin, which plays a role in controlling social behaviour, and vasopressin, which is linked with memory - were released inside the rodent's brain immediately the bond was made. By artificially altering the levels of these hormones in the laboratory, Insel could make the vole fall in love without mating or make it ignore its natural calling. |
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